Low on confidence? Build up your self-esteem

Possessing reasonably high levels of self confidence never hurts your happiness and delight. 

Levels of your self esteem scale up and down pertaining to the situations in your life. We give you some tips so as to boost your morale and self esteem.

Step 1: Pen down your qualities

List seven most attractive qualities about your personality- traits that distinguish you from other people. You may pen them in a small diary and carry it everyday with you. You should read these qualities to yourself so that you are reminded of who you really are and what is it that makes you stand apart from the crowd. You may also enlist the successes of your life in the past. This would remind you of how you achieved those goals and how enormous was the feeling of achieving them. These snippets of experiences from the past will serve as a fuel to catalyse your self esteem for striving for bigger goals for the future.

Step 2: Do Not Undermine Yourself

You must keep a count of the number of times you speak against yourself. This essentially means keeping a track of the number of times you tell people that you are of no worth and of course you are undermining yourself too. This would help you get a wider perspective of your personality and know yourself better. You would then also be encouraged to reduce the exchange of dialogues about your negative traits between people. However, you should not apologize to anyone before or after a conversation as it takes away all your confidence from your inner being. Be assertive. Be strong.

Step 3: Acknowledge compliments

You must be in the habit of accepting and acknowledging compliments and greetings. You must feel good when someone greets you. These gestures are crucial in order to cultivate strong bonds and relationships and build up confidence levels. Don’t be embarrassed if someone compliments you. Never say anything which is self destructive or self-deprecating. You should, instead, look up to the person, give a pleasant smile and thank him or her.

Step 4: Exit your comfort zone

Never try to shun from situations or people that you don’t feel comfortable with. There might be some people who you would hesitate to approach. Avoiding them is not the solution. Instead, you should walk up to them with confidence and perform appropriate gestures before you strike a conversation. The more you throw yourself into such situations, the more your self esteem will go up as you take control of your fears and and not allow yourself to be petrified of your inhibitions.

Step 5: Affirmative Approach

Nothing is as effective as making optimistic affirmations daily to boost your self esteem. This is successful as you talk to your conscience in a sub conscious state where all your negativity resides. You must choose three statements, strong enough. Utter them everyday and you will notice that all your negative beliefs will turn into positive, headstrong attitudes. “I am confident” is an affirmation that you should make daily if you are low on confidence levels. Saying out these affirmations while looking at yourself in the mirror also helps to a great extent.

Step 6: Pamper Yourself

You should be concerned about levels of your self esteem and confidence but don’t panic. Take time out to pamper yourself. Go out with friends and family. Eat well. Avoid Alcohol. Workout and exercise regularly. Have a strict sleep routine and let your body take adequate rest. This would help you recognize your worth and that you deserve to be looked after.